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Tuesday, 17 January 2017
DIFFERENCE BETWEEN "CAN" AND "BE ABLE TO"
Difference between can and be able to
Both can and be
able to can be used to talk about ability. In some cases they are
interchangeable.
Using can
Can is used in
the present tense. It is used to talk about our ability to do things.
Examples
·
I can swim.
·
She can speak English well.
·
I can swim across that stream.
Be able to is
also possible in these cases; however, it sounds a bit more formal here.
·
I am able to knit. (Less natural than ‘I can knit.’)
·
She is able to speak English well.
To talk
about our past ability, we use could. Was/were able to is
also possible.
Study the
examples given below.
·
She could read when she was three. OR She was
able to read when she was three.
Again, in
spoken English, we are less likely to use was able to.
As you can
see in all of these sentences, we were talking about general ability. Things
that we can or we could do at any time in the
present or in the past.
To talk
about things that we managed to do on specific occasions in the past, we cannot
use could. Instead, we use was/were able to. The
verb managed, succeeded (in…ing) are also possible in this
case.
·
I was able to get some really good bargains in the sale.
(NOT I could get some really good bargains in the sale.)
·
After climbing for several hours, we managed to get to the
top of the mountain. OR After climbing for several hours, we were able
to get to the top of the mountain. (NOT … we could get to the top of
the mountain.)
Both could and be
able to can be used to say that we were not capable of doing something
on a specific occasion.
·
In spite of climbing for hours, we couldn’t get to the top
of the mountain. OR In spite of climbing for hours, we weren’t
able to get to the top of the mountain.
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Thursday, 12 January 2017
WHEN TO AVOID SAYING "SORRY"
A Cure for “I’m Sorry” Syndrome
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Did you ever notice that some people seem to be in a perpetual state of apology?
This type of communication typically comes from individuals who are in the habit of making excuses for their actions. They know that they have a commitment they haven’t met, and, instead of facing the music, they choose to say “I’m sorry” to skirt the issue.
“I’m sorry I didn’t show up on time.”
”I’m sorry I didn’t call.”
”I’m sorry I didn’t get that done.”
Think about how you feel when you hear this merry-go-round of excuses. During this ride, on the way up there is a feeling that the person has noticed their poor behavior and will make changes; the way down, however, quickly follows — when you realize no change is coming. This is a ride that no one wants to buy a ticket to get on!
Where does this behavior, come from? A look at our childhood offers us clues. As children we are taught to say “I’m sorry” whenever we have failed to meet the expectations of others.
“I’m sorry I didn’t clean my room.”
”I’m sorry I didn’t do my homework.”
”I’m sorry I wasn’t home on time.”
We are indoctrinated as children to pacify adults with apologies to get them off our backs. We quickly learn that “I’m sorry” ends the uncomfortable situation, making us free to move on to other things.
Because this behavior works, we carry it into adulthood. We then easily offer up an “I’m sorry” in any situation where the expectations of us are greater than our performance. We learn that by saying “I’m sorry” we can smooth out, or pacify, potential rough spots.
What is lacking when an “I’m sorry” is offered? The commitment to make a positive change. A better alternative to constantly saying “I’m sorry” is to replace those excuses with behaviors that will create positive outcomes:
Excuse Offered Alternative Behavior
: “I’m sorry I didn’t show up on time.” Choose to be punctual.
”I’m sorry I didn’t call.” Make the phone call. “I’m sorry I didn’t get that done.” Choose to do it.
Remember, the quality of our life is in direct proportion to the choices that we make and how we act on them. Part of building healthy self-esteem is to make promises that you will keep. When you over-promise and under-deliver, you are negatively affected: you suffer a feeling of low self-confidence and lack of control. Furthermore, the person on the receiving end of your excuse is left doubting your word and loses confidence in your ability to perform.
So when is it appropriate to say “I’m sorry?” For example, “I’m sorry I hurt your feelings. Next time I’ll think about what I’m going to say before I say it.” Although you have used the magic words “I’m sorry” you have acknowledged the negative affect your behavior has had on the other person. You’ve also indicated to that person your commitment to improve your behavior in the future.
Just think about what it would mean if everyone would live their life so they wouldn’t have to say “I’m sorry.” When we heard a promise, we could expect it to be delivered. And when we offered others our word, they could expect the same promise to be fulfilled.
Today, make a commitment to examine how and why you use “I’m sorry.” By doing so you will make the first step toward self-diagnosing and curing “I’m Sorry Syndrome.”
Author: Dr. Susanne Gaddis
The Communications Doctor
Sunday, 1 January 2017
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